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How are you doing TODAY?

How one extra word can make a big difference…

A question people probably ask you a lot is

How are you doing?

Most of the time, this question is used as a polite way to say hello, and the question asker doesn’t really expect you to say anything about how you are really feeling.  The expected answer is

Great, thank you.

And we follow up by asking the same polite question

How are you doing?


What if...

But what if you add one simple word and change the question to this:

How are you doing TODAY?

Now this question becomes really specific and it creates an opening to let the polite answer pass and give a real answer on how you are feeling in this moment. Although only one word was added I noticed that it was a lot harder for people to just answer with a “Great, how are you?”. At least I noticed a small hesitation before people answered the question reflecting on their answer, at best they opened and really shared what was on their mind.

So my suggestion to you before you start your weekend, give it a try yourself and see how adding one word makes a difference…


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