If you still haven’t found a methodology you like, maybe have a look at Kanbanand. It’s introduced by John Sonmez who created a tasty mix of lean, scrum, extreme programming and some extra salt and pepper. Together this gives a nice list of process rules, development practices, infrastructure requirements and a lot of common sense.
I can only agree that taking the things that work for you are always better than religiously following a methodology. So I hope to read about your methodology soon…